I’m Not Trying to Raise Obedient Kids
Why raising trustworthy kids means choosing better problems
I’m Not Trying to Raise Obedient Kids looks at punishment, trust, and authority through the lens of parenting—and asks what kind of adults we’re actually trying to raise. If the goal is kids who can think critically, recognize injustice, repair harm, and be trusted with increasing freedom, then punishment can create the wrong incentives. A Phycomycist approach asks a different question: not just whether a consequence works, but what problems it leaves behind—and whether those are better problems than the ones we started with.
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